Great Parties for Single Men & Women, mostly late 30's, 40's & 50's, but all are welcome!

Meet, Mingle & Dance, or just meet and mingle and just maybe find the love of your life!

The 40+


"Coming to our parties is probably the best decision that you could make to improve your social life - in a hurry!"



is San Diego's Best
Mid-Week  MIXER!
7 - 10pm or later,  
 in the nightclub/lounge of The very popular

5302 Napa St at Morena Blvd, SD,92110

(Just Across from Old Town & at The Morena Blvd exit off I-8,  2 blocks to Napa St)

~Party Features



~Wed, April 1st~


$5 Drink Ticket

We want as many people as possible to come and  experience our  great mid-week party and  to see how easy it is to meet new people, have fun, dance, and still be home at a reasonable hour.

Yes, if  YOU are New to our fun, Wednesday Party, or if you bring a new person, just bring a copy of this "paragraph" for  you & each person, and with your paid admission..


a FREE VIP $5 Drink ticket

good toward food or any beverage!

-----> (sorry, but showing your phone does not qualify for this special - we  do need the printout)

______________It's the "EASTER BONNET PARTY"!______________

~Yes, we will be having a BEST HAT CONTEST!  So, wear your most interesting, fun, outrageous hat (but keep it clean!)!  Great prizes for the MOST INTERESTING HAT and runners up! Prizes include dinner for 2, bottles of wine, "San Diego" t-shirts and more!  Come for the fun!

(wearing a hat not required, but will make it more fun!)

~Great  DJ with top 40's back to the oldies!    You'll hear Rock to Romantic, Latin to Line dances, and swing to salsa!  Michael Jackson and Madonna,  The Bee Gees, Lady Gaga,  Pharell Williams and Robin Thicke, Black Eyed Peas, Brittany, and on and on, And we take your requests seriously.  SERIOUSLY!

~Free chips and salsa with any beverage,  just for the asking! (and drink prices are reasonable!)

~A casual, fun nightclub atmosphere, that will be filled with usually 100  and up to 125 friendly, single men and women,  and the dance floor will be packed all night!

 ~Door Prizes

~And ... You'll see beautiful flowers on the tables!

The earlier that you arrive, the more people you'll meet, and...     you may just find the love of your life!


Admission is $10 or $8 if you arrive by 7:30pm.   $5 for  Military  with I.D. 

Gentlemen - California casual dress, Nice Jeans are ok, but NO t-shirts, sweats,  flip flops,etc, please!  You must look good to get in!

________Hope to See you Wed.  Night for the fun!________




~Take an easy scroll down our site & see what's interesting

~ The Schedule & Upcoming Special events!  (above)

~ Pictures from the parties (a lousy photographer!)

~ What  they are  saying about  the  parties!

~ Have Your Birthday Party at our Party! 

~ Business Networking at  our parties!

~ About the 40+ Singles Parties!

~ Get on our mailing list!

~ The "Top Ten" list!

~ We are "WEDDING PLANNERS"!  Let us know if you met at our party and are getting married!


~ Sponsors and Friends !




"Hi dave. Thank you so much for your effort to make the New Year's Eve party so nice for us!

The  ambiance was great!

You went all out with the party favors, champagne,  give-aways and decorations.

 Just wanted to let you know I appreciate it. Have a great New Year.






"You can post this in the internet, if you chose to use it!I am new to San Diego, and have been attending The 40+ Singles parties since November 2013.

The music is the best and the men attending usually a lot of fun! Everyone at the front desk is very pleasant and made me feel comfortable.

Luz Marina"


"I went to your Valentine's Day party Friday night, and I was surprised - almost shocked athow many people were there,  and almost  an even number from both sexes! I danced all night!

Susan D.  2/14/13


"Came to  first party, but the woman at the front desk wouldn't let me in because I was wearing a (nice )sweatshirt - a real nice one.  I poked my head in and saw a big crowd in the room - so I decided to go home and change!  Glad I did!  You had a lot of hot women there!  All races too - White, Asian, Black, Hispanic.  It was like the United Nations, and a wide variety of ages, which I liked also, even though I was younger than most.  Everyone socialized with everyone else!  Well worth the few bucks to get in and definitely well worth going home to change!  I'll know better next time!"



















If your EXACT birthday falls on the EXACT date of our party,

we would like to make you and up to 4 friends our guest at the party!

(that's complimentary admission for you and your friends)

... and you will receive a bottle of the finest vintage wine (2015), to take home!  ;))

Just call us or send an email as soon as you know that you'll be coming to the party.

Please contact us by the day before the party at the latest,

You and your friends will be asked to arrive during the first half hour

of the starting time of the party (and that way you can also get a table).

The birthday person's name will be the (secret) password for the FREE admission.

You will  be asked to show a driver's license (or facsimile) showing your actual birth date.

That's all!

So, on your birthday, come and have your party, at our party!

*Note; If your birthday is on Dec 31, (New Years) we will make YOUR admission complimentary,  but  we can not comp friends.



Business Networking

If you have business cards or brochures for your service, business, profession, or hobby -

you are welcome to bring them to a party and we will gladly display them

on our reception table.

(we reserve the right not to display any cards that we feel are inappropriate)





 are the parties that everyone talked about

in Boston, San Diego and Ft Lauderdale in the 90's,

and now back San Diego!

As your host, I try to make the parties fun, reasonably priced,

and conducive  to meeting new people.  When you've come to a few parties,

you'll feel like you're coming to a place,

"where everyone knows your name!"

The parties are geared for single (un-married) men and women generally in their late 30's 40's & 50's,but of course, all are welcome.


Usually about 100-300 attend (depending if mid-week or weekend)

We always have one of our popular DJ's, who will try to play as many requests as possible; We take your requests seriously! (Seriously!)

Except for special parties such as New Years Eve, the admission is always cash at the door.

We have very friendly "hostesses" at the front desk (+ Dave) who will gladly help with any questions or situations.

Dress code for men: stylish - NO jeans (except that nice jeans are ok at Tio Leo's only), NO t-shirts, sports hats, sweats, etc.YOU MUST LOOK GOOD TO GET IN!  

(The women always look good, so no need to mention :>)

 The cash bar also includes a variety of non-alcoholic beverages.

At some parties - New Faces Special - see specific party for details!

So, come to the fun parties, where you're sure to meet some wonderful people!




(if link doesn't work, please just send a regular email)

We will gladly include you

on our VIP email list to receive

advance updates & special discounts!


~The Top Ten List ~

Do's & Don'ts at a party ...

Having put on over hundreds of dance parties for single adults,  I have noticed some things  that people should do and should not do if they REALLY want to have a good time and meet new people. See how many sound familiar....

1) Have a positive attitude, be sociable, smile a lot, & come to have fun with no expectations! Put a beverage of any kind in your hand, and the best way to meet is by walking around with that smile.  The rest will happen by itself.

2) Place yourself where the action is;  closer to the dance floor, or closer to the bar area. Don't hide in corners!

3) Women - do not congregate all night with a group of other women - especially sitting. Try walking around by yourself or with one other woman. It's much less intimidating for a man to ask you to dance if he doesn't have to do it in front of your entire group. (and with the fear of possibly being rejected.)

4) "When you see an (interesting) stranger across a crowed room", be sure to flash a big smile!  A smile is probably the most inviting and welcoming gesture that you can legally make! ;>)

5) Whether or not you're having an alcoholic drink, keep a glass of something (water, juice, soda, virgin drinks) in your hand anyway - it looks more sociable...especially men -  otherwise you will be free to cross your arms or stand with hands in your pockets, both of which give off negative body language and are very uninviting positions!  Make yourself look like you are IN the party and not an OBSERVER - put something in your hands.

6a) Men - do not hesitate to ask women to dance just because you think that she might refuse. Most women will absolutely dance if asked.

6b) Women - do not hesitate to ask men to dance just because you think that he might refuse. Most men will absolutely dance if asked.

6c) Similarly, if you'd really rather not dance  with someone - just say ''no thank you".  If you say something like,  "maybe later " or "not right now" - it's guaranteed that that person will come back to you later.

7) If you came by yourself, don't hesitate to socialize with people of the same'll be surprised how many new friends you'll make, and after a while our parties almost become like "Cheers", where "everyone knows your name."

8) Don't allow yourself to get tied down to one person all night if you don't really want to. You might say something like "I've enjoyed talking with you, and I now I'm going to mingle for a while".

9) We have tons of great music so, please do make requests of the DJ or your host.

10)  Men... One of the first "Laws of attraction" is that  - the sharper you dress, the more the women will be attracted to you!!!

 Some of the above may sound corny, but only YOU can determine if you'll  meet people & have a good time, so - GO FOR IT!




You are getting Married? 


Did you meet at a 40+ Singles Party, and you are getting married?  Please contact me, because if you would like to have your wedding  ceremony,  right, smack in the middle of one of our singles parties, I will provide  everything below for the big event! We will stop the party to have your wedding ceremony in front of  up to 200 of your "closest friends"!  (If you prefer, we could have the ceremony just before the start of the party.)


~The Ceremonial Room or Hall

~ The music by our very popular DJ - (request your special songs)!

~ Complimentary hors d'oeuvres for the bridal party!

 ~ Flowers for the bridal party! (certain limitations) !

~ Free admission for your guests (up to 25 free)!

~and even your wedding night in a beautiful guest room at a local hotel!

and possibly video'd by a local tv station.

So let me know!






24 Hour recorded party schedule & info

(760)S-I-N-G-L-E-S  (760)746-4537












and collect $1,000.00 cash reward (recompnesa)!

(cash, no taxes, and Obama will never know about it! ha, ha!)

As the host of the 40+ Singles Parties, and being single myself, I don't feel

that it's appropriate for me to approach a woman at a party for a date -

after all, she is my customer.

(of course, I am open to a woman approaching me for a date!  ha, ha!)


Because of this unusual situation that I find myself in, I have developed a website for myself -

At my website, you will notice that I am actually offering

a reward of $1,000 cash, - a "finder's fee",  (recompensa, en Espanol),

for the person who introduces me to (or is directly responsible for me meeting) the woman that I marry*

So, please check out my website,,

and especially the YouTube video by the Boston Herald from about 2 years ago -


Good luck to all of us....

(and I'll just keep that cool thousand in the bank, drawing no interest at all,  until you find Ms Right for me!)


*(disclaimer - this does not apply to introducing me to a woman at a party that I host or  a woman who has been to my party)


A great local organization where you can adopt or foster a loving dog or cat. 



Boys & Girls Club of San Diego

4635 Clairemont Mesa Blvd

San Diego, Ca   92117

Donations accepted!



A great gag gift

from $19.95  + s&h!

~ for an Over-the Hill Birthday

~for a gag Anniversary gift

~ for Trick or Treat Halloween "gift"

~for April Fools' Day

for any occasion where someone beats you (at tennis, cards, or their team beat yours, etc)

__________________________________Thanks for visiting and come back soon and often!___________________________________


*2015 SERVICE MARK APPLIED FOR The 40+ SINGLES PARTIES! & The Young Executive Singles Network , (The Y.E.S. Network of San Diego), Eligible in San Diego, The 30+ SINGLES PARTIES, and CLUB 40-Something,  are all registered service marks and all rights are reserved 1992 -2015















on........ INSERT DATE HERE _____________________




Yes, Bring a New Person or if You are New to our Wed Party,

just bring a copy of this page or "paragraph" for each person & you (both or all) will ...

(sorry, but showing your phone doesn't qualify for this special - we need the printout)


~ Usually, you'll see 100 - 125 party-going single men and women from all over San Diego  & some from groups like, Meetup, POF,  Baby Boomers, etc.!  We've got the fun people!

~And you'll hear our very popular DJ with the best dance mixes from the Bee Gees to Beyonce, Santana  & Rod Stewart to Lady Gaga, Maroon 5, Bruno Mars & more!  Rock to Romantic,  Latin to Line dances,  a swing & some Salsa,  and we take your requests seriously - SERIOUSLY!

~Tio Leo's  Chips & Salsa - complimentary w/any beverage -  just for the asking!

~ A dance floor that's packed all night long!

~Fun, easy, comfortable atmosphere for meeting, mingling & Dancing!

You really  do want to be there, especially if you're new to San Diego!

ADM. is at the door: $10.    $8 pre 7:30.   EARLY BIRDS  pay only $5 pre 7pm!

Military - only $5 Admission  (with I.D.)

Dress Code:  California Casual - Nice jeans ok.         No sweats, t-shirts, flip flops, sports hats, etc.

This is a great  night to have some fun, meet new people, and still be home a reasonable hour! 

 We put on a great party at a fair price.  We are more interested in  giving you a fun party & you meeting the love of your life, than taking your money!           

__________Hope to see you  Wednesday Nights  at Tio Leo's ________