Dave & Ruth

The 40+



24 hour EVENT hotline (760) S-I-N-G-L-E-S

Ages approx. 39-ish to 59-ish...a few younger and a few older attend, but all are welcome!

"Coming to our parties is probably the best decision that you could make to improve your social life in a hurry!"

These are the FRIENDLY, FUN parties!


is San Diego's
6:30 - 10pm or later,   in the nightclub/lounge of

5302 Napa St at Morena Blvd, SD,92110

(Just Across from Old Town & at The Morena Blvd or Taylor St. exit off I-8,  2 blocks to Napa St)



______WHAT'S NEW AT TIO LEO'S!_______

1)  NEW  - EARLY BIRD ADMISSION - only $5 before 7pm!

2) GREAT NEW DJ! Everyone has been buzzing about him - he's REALLY good!



Bring a New Person or if You are New,

just bring a copy of this page or paragraph for each person,

& You (both or all) will


(sorry, but showing your phone doesn't qualify for this special - we need the printout)

Join the crowd...

~WEDNESDAYS at Tio Leo's is The FUN party!

~ Usually  100 - 150 party-going singles from all over San Diego  &
  some from groups like 
Match.com, Meetup, POF,  The Baby Boomers and more!
~ Door Prizes include:
Dinner for 2 at Tio Leo's, bottles of "fine" wine and more!

And, You'll see...

~Our very popular DJ with the best dance mixes from today's top 40  back to the  70's, 80's & 90's; Rock to Romantic,  Latin to Line dances, some swing and we take your requests seriously - seriously!

~Tio Leo's famous  Chips & Salsa - complimentary -  just for the asking!

~ Large dance floor that will be packed all night long!

~a fun, easy, comfortable atmosphere for meeting, mingling & Dancing!

You really do want to be there!!!

Admission is at the door $10,  $8 before 7:30,  EARLY BIRD - only $5 before 7pm

Dress Code

 Men -  No  T-shirts, sports hats, sweats, shorts, flip flops, etc!  Nice Jeans are allowed. You must look good to get in!

  Ladies - no need to mention a dress code - you always look good!

This is a great way to have some fun and meet new people during the week, in a casual atmosphere, and still be home at a reasonable hour!

_____________________Hope to see you this Wednesday!_________________

All Parties Feature:

- Our very popular DJ with the best dance mixes from the 70's through 80's and 90's and today - Rod Stewart, Donna Summer,  Santana, Britney, Ricky Martin, JLO, MJ, Madonna, right through today's Beyonce & Lady Gaga, Maroon5, etc!  Rock, to Romantic; Latin to Line dances, and we take your requests seriously! (seriously!)

~Up to 100 - 300 single men & women! (depending if mid-week or weekend party) 

~Ages approximately mostly late 30's 40's & 50's - Some younger, some older, but all are welcome.

~Comfortable atmosphere to meet new people! No Pressure to do anything!

~ Very Friendly Host & Hostesses!

~Ladies - don't hesitate to come alone, many do!

~Proper Dress -

Men:  No jeans (except at Tio Leos, nice jeans are ok), No t-shirts, sweats, flip flops or sports hats, etc. (you must look good to get in!)

Ladies: You can wear anything that you like because you always look good! :>)))

~ Admission is at the door -

Tio Leo's: $10, $8 before 7:30, and only $5 before 7pm

Remember - bring a new person (& THIS PAGE) & you both get FREE ADMISSION!




~Take an easy scroll down our site & see what's interesting ~

~ The Schedule & Upcoming Special events!  (above)

~ What they are saying about the parties!

~ Have Your Birthday Party at our Party! 

~ Business Networking at  our parties!

~ About the 40+ Singles Parties!

~ Get on our mailing list!

~ The "Top Ten" list!

~ We are "WEDDING PLANNERS"!  Let us know if you met at our party and are getting married!


~ Sponsors and Friends !

I _______________________________



"Hi dave. Thank you so much for your effort to make the New Year's Eve party so nice for us!

The food and ambiance was great!

You went all out with the party favors, champagne,  give-aways and decorations.

 Just wanted to let you know I appreciate it. Have a great New Year.



"You can post this in the internet, if you chose to use it!


I am new to San Diego, and have been attending SanDiegoSinglesParties.com since November 2013.


The music is the best and the men attending usually a lot of fun!!


Everyone at the front desk is very helpful!!


Luz Marina"



"I went to your Valentine's Day party Friday night, and I was surprised - almost shocked at

how many people were there,  and almost  an even number from both sexes! I danced all night!

Susan D.


"Came to the Doubletree for my first party, but the woman at the front desk wouldn't let me in because I was wearing jeans and a nice sweatshirt - a real nice one.  I poked my head in and saw a big crowd in the room - so I decided to go home and change!  Glad I did!  You had a lot of hot women there!  All races too - White, Asian, Black, Hispanic.  It was like the United Nations, and a wide variety of ages, which I liked also, even though I was younger than most.  Everyone socialized with everyone else!  Well worth the few bucks to get in and definitely well worth going home to change!  I'll know better next time!"



Smelly Party ended smelling like a....

'Valentine's Party...very nice party, but there was an awful smell in the room when I first arrived..... Dave and the DJ kept telling everyone that it was just something about a burned out bulb. It was bad!  Permeated the room, and even the lobby downstairs.  I was about to leave, but after a short while it seemed to disappear.  Good thing that I remained, because I met a nice guy and at the end of the evening he took a rose off the table and gave it  me.  I'm out of town on business for a couple of weeks, but we are going  to meet there at the next party. The party  really ended smelling like a ROSE!"

Elena W.


As host of the parties,  I like to ask people how they are liking the night.  Most comments are about the music.  On this one occasion,  I asked two ladies (girlfriends) who came to the party together, how THEY liked the music.  First one didn't like it - she said  that the DJ plays too much OLD music.  The second  wasn't happy either- she said that he played too much NEW music!  ...and then they began to  laugh and "argue" about it between themselves!  ha,ha!  Funny - but absolutely true story!

It's the strangest thing...  you just can't please everyone, but I try.

So, let ME know if there is music that you'd like to hear - give me a list if you like - I take your requests seriously - SERIOUSLY! :>) 





If your EXACT birthday falls on the EXACT date of our party,

we would like to make you and up to 4 friends your guests at the party!

(that's complimentary admission for you and your friends)

... and you will receive a bottle of the finest vintage wine (2014), to take home!  ;))

Just call us or send an email as soon as you know that you'll be coming to the party.

Please contact us by the day before the party at the latest,

with your name and your friends' names to be put on our VIP guest list.

You and your friends will be asked to arrive during the first half hour

of the starting time of the party (and that way you can also get a table).

The birthday person's name will be the (secret) password for the FREE admission.

You will  be asked to show a driver's license (or facsimile) showing your actual birth date.

That's all!

So, on your birthday, come and have your party, at our party!

*Note; If your birthday is on Dec 31, (New Years) we will make YOUR admission complimentary,  but  we can not comp friends.



Business Networking

If you have business cards or brochures for your service, business, profession, or hobby -

you are welcome to bring them to a party and we will gladly display them

on our reception table.

(we reserve the right not to display any cards that we feel are inappropriate)





 are the parties that everyone talked about

in Boston, San Diego and Ft Lauderdale in the 90's,

and now back San Diego!

As your host, I try to make the parties fun, reasonably priced,

and conducive  to meeting new people.  When you've come to a few parties,

you'll feel like you're coming to a place,

"where everyone knows your name!"

The parties are geared for single (un-married) men and women

generally in their late 30's 40's & 50's,

but of course, all ages are welcome.

Usually about 100-300 attend (depending if mid-week or weekend)

We always have one of our popular DJ's, who will try to play as many requests as possible; We take your requests seriously! (Seriously!)

Except for special parties such as New Years Eve, the admission is always cash at the door.

We very friendly "hostesses" at the front desk (+ Dave) who will gladly help with any situations.

Dress code for men: stylish - NO jeans (except that nice jeans are ok at Tio Leo's only), NO t-shirts, sports hats, flip-flops etc.YOU MUST LOOK GOOD TO GET IN!  

(The women always look good, so no need to mention :>)

 The cash bar also includes a variety of non-alcoholic beverages.

At some parties - New Faces Special - see specific party for details!

So, come to the fun parties, where you're sure to meet some wonderful people!






(if link doesn't work, please just send a regular email)

We will gladly include you

on our VIP email list to receive

advance updates & special discounts!


~The Top Ten List ~

Do's & Don'ts at a party ...

Having put on over hundreds of dance parties for single adults,  I have noticed some things  that people should do and should not do if they REALLY want to have a good time and meet new people. See how many sound familiar....

1) Have a positive attitude, be sociable, smile a lot, & come to have fun with no expectations! Put a beverage of any kind in your hand, and the best way to meet is by walking around with that smile.  The rest will happen by itself.

2) Place yourself where the action is;  closer to the dance floor, or closer to the bar area. Don't hide in corners!

3) Women - do not congregate all night with a group of other women - especially sitting. Try walking around by yourself or with one other woman. It's much less intimidating for a man to ask you to dance if he doesn't have to do it in front of your entire group. (and with the fear of possibly being rejected.)

4) "When you see an (interesting) stranger across a crowed room", be sure to flash a big smile!  A smile is probably the most inviting and welcoming gesture that you can legally make! ;>)

5) Whether or not you're having an alcoholic drink, keep a glass of something (water, juice, soda, virgin drinks) in your hand anyway - it looks more sociable...especially men -  otherwise you will be free to cross your arms or stand with hands in your pockets, both of which give off negative body language and are very uninviting positions!  Make yourself look like you are IN the party and not an OBSERVER - put something in your hands.

6a) Men - do not hesitate to ask women to dance just because you think that she might refuse. Most women will absolutely dance if asked.

6b) Women - do not hesitate to ask men to dance just because you think that he might refuse. Most men will absolutely dance if asked.

6c) Similarly, if you'd really rather not dance  with someone - just say ''no thank you".  If you say something like,  "maybe later " or "not right now" - it's guaranteed that that person will come back to you later.

7) If you came by yourself, don't hesitate to socialize with people of the same sex...you'll be surprised how many new friends you'll make, and after a while our parties almost become like "Cheers", where "everyone knows your name."

8) Don't allow yourself to get tied down to one person all night if you don't really want to. You might say something like "I've enjoyed talking with you, and I now I'm going to mingle for a while".

9) We have tons of great music so, please do make requests of the DJ or your host.

10)  Men... One of the first "Laws of attraction" is that  - the sharper you dress, the more the women will be attracted to you!!!

 Some of the above may sound corny, but only YOU can determine if you'll  meet people & have a good time, so - GO FOR IT!




You are getting Married? 


Did you meet at a 40+ Singles Party, and you are getting married?  Please contact me, because if you would like to have your wedding  ceremony,  right, smack in the middle of one of our singles parties, I will provide  everything below for the big event! We will stop the party to have your wedding ceremony in front of  up to 200 of your "closest friends"!  (If you prefer, we could have the ceremony just before the start of the party.)


~The Ceremonial Room or Hall

~ The music by our very popular DJ - (request your special songs)!

~ Complimentary hors d'oeuvres for the bridal party!

 ~ Flowers for the bridal party! (certain limitations) !

~ Free admission for your guests (up to 25 free)!

~and even your wedding night in a beautiful guest room at a local hotel!

and possibly video'd by a local tv station.

So let me know!






24 Hour recorded party schedule & info

(760)S-I-N-G-L-E-S  (760)746-4537












and collect $1,000.00 cash reward (recompnesa)!

(cash, no taxes, and Obama will never know about it! ha, ha!)



As the host of the 40+ Singles Parties, and being single myself, I don't feel

that it's appropriate for me to approach a woman at a party for a date -

after all, she is my customer.

(of course, I am open to a woman approaching me for a date!  ha, ha!)


Because of this unusual situation that I find myself in, I have developed a website for myself -


At my website, you will notice that I am actually offering

a reward of $1,000 cash, - a "finder's fee",  (recompensa, en Espanol),

for the person who introduces me to (or is directly responsible for me meeting) the woman that I marry*

So, please check out my website, MarryDave.com.,

and especially the YouTube video by the Boston Herald from about 2 years ago -


Good luck to all of us....

(and I'll just keep that cool thousand in the bank, drawing no interest at all,  until you find Ms Right for me!)


*(disclaimer - this does not apply to introducing me to a woman at a party that I host or  a woman who has been to my party)




A great local organization where you can adopt or foster a loving dog or cat. 



Boys & Girls Club of San Diego

4635 Clairemont Mesa Blvd

San Diego, Ca   92117

Donations accepted!





A great gag gift

from $19.95  + s&h!

~ for an Over-the Hill Birthday

~for a gag Anniversary gift

~ for Trick or Treat Halloween "gift"

~for April Fools' Day

for any occasion where someone beats you (at tennis, cards, or their team beat yours, etc)

__________________________________Thanks for visiting and come back soon and often!___________________________________



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